One of my favorite quotes is, “Treat your friends like family and your family like friends.”
Writers are told to “show, not tell” in their manuscripts. I believe the same holds true for our lives. After all, actions speak louder than words, right?
Many people will be showing their love to others today with flowers, chocolates, jewelry and other gifts. But what about those other days of the year when romance or love may not be in the air? Those days when the alarm didn’t go off, the kids are sick or maybe worse. How do you show love then?
Showing love is putting your words in action.
Think about the people in your lives. To whom do you want to show your love? Your parents? Your siblings? Your spouse? Your children? Your friends?
Sometimes it’s easier said than done to show others how much you care. If you’re struggling with ideas, consider these suggestions:
· Speak to your loved one’s love language. If your spouse’s love language is physical touch, then offer to give him a massage or give him a hug for no reason. If your sister’s love language is Acts of Service, then bring her dinner and do her dishes.
· Show your appreciation. How do you say thank you? Maybe give a bouquet of flowers on a very mundane Tuesday instead of waiting for the one day of the year when flowers are marked up in the name of love.
· Swallow your pride. Being right isn’t always the right way to strengthen a relationship. Be the first to apologize and mean it. Learn to forgive easily and forget quickly. Holding grudges widens the distance in a relationship.
· Do the unexpected. Surprise your loved one with an unexpected act of service. Offer to make dinner, do the dishes or fold last week’s laundry still sitting on the couch.
· Take an interest in their hobbies. My husband is a professional fly tyer and outdoorsman. Some of our best times are on the water, floating a line across the surface. I’m not the kind of woman who is one with nature, especially in snake-infested grasses that skirt the streams where we fish. But putting my fears aside while pulling on my hip waders gives us time to connect away from the house and our daily responsibilities. He appreciates my interest in his hobby so much that he bought me a pink fishing vest. Yes, pink.
Showing your loved ones how much you care takes time and energy, but the effort you put forth will strengthen your relationships. And that’s worth it on so many levels.
Your Turn: How do you treat your family like friends and your friends like family? What other suggestions could you add to my list?
Married over 20 years, Lisa Jordan knows a thing or two about romance. She and her real-life hero husband have two college-aged sons. By day, she is an early childhood educator. By night, Lisa is an award-winning author for Love Inspired, writing contemporary Christian romances that promise hope and happily ever after. In her free time, she enjoys good books, romantic comedies, crafting with friends and feeding her NCIS addiction. To learn more about her, visit her at www.lisajordanboooks.com.