I will thank the Lord with all my heart as I meet with his godly people. How amazing are the deeds of the Lord! All who delight in him should ponder them. Psalm 111:1-2 NLT

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Spell marriage proposals correctly if "you care enough to send the very best”

Delores E. Topliff

Proverbs calls words in due season apples of gold in settings of silver. Whether we're creating real-life conversations or dialogue in books, only well-chosen words convey emotion and build successful character portraits.

Omitting names, I remember years ago when a nice-enough graduating college senior I hardly knew mailed me, a freshman English major, a marriage proposal tucked inside a book of poetry. Written in pencil, his proposal contained three spelling errors.

Emphasizing the importance of writing well, I tell students I circled the misspelled words in red and mailed back his proposal. In actual fact when he phoned for my answer, I mumbled that he was a nice man but I was too young to make that commitment.

We didn’t stay in touch, I heard he married and lived a reasonably successful ordinary life, but that experience impressed me with the importance of always caring enough to send our very bestlike Hallmark. It was also important to me not to live an ordinary life.

What about you? What note, conversation, or encouragement has meant apples of gold in silver bringing you joy and blessing?

Tell us how you've done that in return?


  1. I often make cards of encouragement to send and have had people to tell me two or three years later they still have the card and continue to read it. Great post. That poor fella who had those errors...

  2. That is pretty amusing! Words do matter. My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. (Pr. 4:20) In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise. (Pro. 10:19) For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. Matt. 12:37 (That's one for the young man who made mistakes.) There's lots more too. And you have not by any means lived an ordinary life! Blessings!

  3. Yup, I know I wasn't the right choice for the nice misspeller--but it taught me a writing lesson, too.